Spare the Rod spoil the child or that ?

I am sorry that things are going that way... it is hard to handle a child who is going through tantrums- reguardless of the parent... you are not alone.. but you do have it a little rougher then a lot of us. the only thing i can think of you doing is to go to the dr and find out better ways of dealing with this issue or even to a behavioral specialist who can give you advice on what you can do on your end.